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Tired

Postby Nay » Tue Oct 24, 2017 11:38 pm

I am new to the site and haven't posted before.
My relationship with my partner has spanned many years, hes always had a gambling problem. He in the past has stolen my keycard, and many a pay day hasn't come home from work, unpaid bills, mortgage etc. I'm tired, I know that I have always tried to fix things and have managed our finances, and in the past given him an "allowance". This hasn't worked for ages now as he no longer will let me take care of his finances. I am starting to see that it's not just the gambling but the way he treats me he can be quite nasty then he really can turn on the charm. He has never hid his gambling and makes me feel like he's entitled to his time - a hobby as such. I can't support our family with his attitude of I'll pay it all next week. I've given him up until the end of the year to make changes and have found some reading material for him which remains untouched, he has told me he has to stop but it's so tricky to discuss our future and his addiction as he withdraws, which in turn makes me very frustrated and upset.
I find it difficult to speak with family due to the stigma that comes with gambling, so sorry for the long post! Thanks :)
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Re: Tired

Postby Jeddie » Wed Oct 25, 2017 6:55 pm

Hi Nay, I can’t help you because I am new but just wanted to let you know that I have read your post and hope someone comments soon to help you.
IN GAMBLING THE MANY MUST LOSE IN ORDER THAT THE FEW MAY WIN
George Bernard Shaw
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Re: Tired

Postby Nay » Wed Oct 25, 2017 7:52 pm

Hi Jeddie,
Thankyou for your words, I feel a bit better just knowing someone has read my post :)
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Re: Tired

Postby alc » Wed Oct 25, 2017 9:08 pm

Hi Nay,
I totally understand where you are coming from! My situation seems like it is spiralling out of control - although I can relate I also do not know what to do. I have just begun to take over our finances - I feel lost and confused - I can't understand why he does it and leaves his family with financial strain. There is remorse but not too long after we sort things out he is back doing it again. I can not sleep as I worry all the time about this - It truly is exhausting. Good luck on your journey - sorry I can not offer advice but I can sympathise. I really hope things turn around for you.

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Re: Tired

Postby Nay » Thu Oct 26, 2017 9:47 am

Hi Tayls,
I also wish I could understand the reason for gambling. I know it's an addiction, like yourself i find it so hard to figure out. My partner also shows remorse after his actions and I know it's taking its toll on him emotionally but he keeps going back. I honestly believe that looking after the finances is a positive step, we were able to live that way for some time. I knew that our bills were paid so some of that uncertainty was removed. The sleepless nights is awful I totally understand how you feel. This is my first time n reaching out and I feel I should have done it sooner, thinking of you and your family. I too don't have the right words or know what is best but steps in the right direction have to be a start X

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